We are celebrating our victorious child’s 34th birthday this week. She truly was a victory. After five very difficult pregnancies she was born. We first found out we were expecting her because I was being treated for bronchial pneumonia. Due to the meds I was on that ‘could’ leave her brain-damaged, the other bad pregnancies and health risk to me and the fact Phil had lost his job, the doctor advised abortion.
I was not new to this advice. I received it with my second pregnancy while in the hospital during a miscarriage. I actually lost a twin, but still had one baby. I had lost my first child at age 24. Now at 27 I was finally expecting again. The doctor cautioned and suggested I go ahead and abort the remaining twin. After all, she had about a 10% chance of living, probably was brain-damaged and was a high risk to my health in my current condition. I did die on the operating table with our oldest, but God had other plans. After 10 days in the hospital I went home with a 9 pound normal and healthy baby girl.
Both of my girls are gifts from God and He knew when the doctors did not. God IS the master physician. Neither was brain damaged, in fact just the opposite. Both are college grads, married and are mothers.
I named our oldest Rebekah Kristen, rebirth in Christ, as both of us were given a second chance at life. I named our youngest Victoria Paige, victorious child, as she truly was a victory against all odds. Naming your children is very important. Naming is important to God. God gives so many examples of why people were named what they were in the Bible. For example:
Gen 35:10 “God said to him, ‘Your name is Jacob; You shall no longer be called Jacob, But Israel shall be your name.‘ So He called him Israel.“
Gen 5:29 “And he named him Noah, saying, ‘This one will give us comfort from our work and from the hard labor of our hands caused by the ground which the Lord has cursed.‘”
Equally important is raising them knowing WHY they were given their name. It builds character and purpose.
When Victoria was in high school, she had to write a persuasive essay for English. Since abortion was controversial many students wrote on that subject. The teacher had already read them so she knew Victoria had taken the narrow path and had her present her’s last. Her’s was the only pro-life paper. Not only did she state the facts about how it is used as birth control and that the statistics of its need for mothers at risk, rape, and incest (which are extremely rare – less than 1%); she told them about my decisions with her sister and her births. Most of them did not know the facts and most of them were just parroting the popular voice. Some argued we would have felt differently if she HAD been born deformed or brain-damaged. She was able to tell them that we refused the amniocentesis test that would have shown such conditions as our resolve in accepting God’s will no matter the outcome.
So how did the world get to this state about human life? When did we lose the awe over creation? In my opinion it has been subtle. I believe we as Christians are as much to blame as anyone. We have treated motherhood as common and become flippant in our approach. Why should the world treat life sacred and with awe when we have joined their ranks in the treatment of motherhood?
I truly believe that if we want the public to treat an unborn baby as a baby then we need to be the first to do so. I firmly believe that if we as Christians do not change our treatment of motherhood and birth to align with God’s word and then raise our children with the same teachings, then we can see life treated with less and less respect.
Birth is about a living soul, created by God. God knows us from before we were born.
Jeremiah 1:5 “Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, before you were born I set you apart; I appointed you as a prophet to the nations.”
He does not label us as a ‘pea’, a ‘kidney bean’, a ‘peanut’ or a ‘bump’. He would never treat us so trivial. He would not focus on the mom and her physique and draw attention away from the awe of birth.
1 Peter 3:3 “Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel;
4 But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price.”
I believe the Bible means we are not to be worldly and take on the worlds displays of dressing and that includes motherhood. We have become flippant and tolerant of the world’s views on life. Women are drawing attention to themselves and referring to their ‘bumps’ instead of their child given by God. I am sadden by some Christian women who believe God’s Word yet do not follow Proverbs 31:30 and 1 Timothy 2:9-10. Motherhood has become about them instead of their testimony to God’s love and graciousness. They place photos of exposed stomachs on their social media and show off in public.
Birth is NOT a celebration about a woman’s body, but a celebration of a new life. How sad that we have misplaced the focus and missed all these opportunities to testify to God’s wonder and miracle of birth to the masses.
So the next time you defend Pro-life and anti-abortion views, make sure your actions are not treating the unborn lives flippantly and worldly. The world watches actions. That child is not a bump, it is a baby, a miracle created by God. Handle with care.
*In My Humble Opinion – I know this is not going to be a popular post but, I believe that we as Christians need to check our actions against our words and views and His word. How do we as Christians expect the world to view life with reverence if we treat it worldly ourselves?
What a beautiful personal story. Your faith and your “resolve in accepting God’s will no matter the outcome” are certainly admirable. Not all abortions are treated flippantly, however. Put down abortions, but maybe you could ease up a little on those who make well-informed, personal decisions about how to treat their own cavatar. Support education and therapy for mothers carrying an unwanted miracle, not jail or clothes hangers. imho 😉
Unfortunately, abortion is being used as a birth control … a convenience. Even if you argue it’s viability due to an incident of rape or incest, that would only take into account less than 1% of abortions. Most statistics quote between 1-4% of rape/incest victims result in a pregnancy. A heart beat starts at around 18 days after fertilization. Many abortions are performed months past this time. Abortions are silencers, killers of unborn life. Every pro-choice person I have talked with will agree that they should not climb a tree and smash the eggs in an Eagle’s nest even though there is no way of their knowing if the eggs are fertilized. They agree Eagles are endangered and every egg should have a right to become an Eagle. Yet, they want a person to have the right to choose if another living being has a right to live because of their own personal circumstances (finances, too many kids, unwed, bad timing ….). Abortion is never right. Murdering an unborn for any reason is still murder. The baby did nothing wrong. If the woman’s body is operating correctly, it will miscarrying any misformed fetus, so abortions are destroying healthy humans for the most part.