While raising kids you will hear them express what they perceive to be their rights on a daily (if not hourly) basis. “That’s not right. That’s not fair.” They have their perception of what are their rights and what is fair. It is your responsibility to teach them what their rights are and what is fair. Teach your children from the child rearing manual, the Bible. And they learn from watching YOU follow that manual for your own life.
My daughters grew up hearing the standard retorts we grew up with, “I don’t have to be fair, I’m your mom, life’s not fair.” I believe that as adults we are guilty of the same attitude with God. “That’s not fair”, is uttered in our mind and hearts if not out loud. Honestly, as we look around at those that are still employed and are suffering no economic hardship, it is difficult not to look towards Heaven and question the fairness. Except for the fact that we have no money, no idea what is going to happen to us, our home, etc., Phil and I have never been so blessed. We have wonderful daughters and we have each other. Simplistic as it may seem, we have our needs of food, clothes, shelter and love for TODAY. Our daily bread, so to speak.
It really all boils down to needs and wants. I often told my girls they were brought into this world with the right to a place to sleep, food to eat and clothes to wear. I told them that nothing guaranteed them a private bedroom decorated to their taste, clothes that they liked to wear or their favorite foods. All of those luxuries were earned, not rights. Of course I never held them to just a pallet on the floor, one pair of shoes and one change or clothes and bread and water. Most parents want the best for their children and we enjoy lavishing them with the best.
I am fond of reminding people how everything on earth is a minuscule picture of our relationship with our Heavenly Father. God has promised us a place to sleep, food to eat and clothes to wear. Everything else is His blessings. We do not earn our blessings based on our works. Just like we may want to bless our children but do not do so because of timing or their being ready for such blessings, God too, has a perfect timing for what He has for us. Seriously, who would give a sports car to a toddler? We receive what we need and want when it is in accordance to God’s will and timing. If blessings were based on works, the Apostles would not have suffered. Suffering is not a sign that God does not love us or has forgotten us. God does know our needs as well as our hearts desires. Going through times of hardship, we tend to think God has quit loving us. Have you ever heard your child say, “you just don’t love me” when you denied a perceived right or held back a wanted item? Even as adults we can be so childish. God loves us and He has a perfect timing. I could scream I have rights to the Lord. We’ve been faithful in all areas of our lives, so why are we about to lose all that we have left, the house, the cars? What will we do? Where will we get food? Where will we sleep? We have rights Lord, right? We are your children Lord, right? Right. And what does the Bible tell us?
25“Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more important than food, and the body more important than clothes? 26Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they? 27Who of you by worrying can add a single hour to his lifeb?
28“And why do you worry about clothes? See how the lilies of the field grow. They do not labor or spin. 29Yet I tell you that not even Solomon in all his splendor was dressed like one of these. 30If that is how God clothes the grass of the field, which is here today and tomorrow is thrown into the fire, will he not much more clothe you, O you of little faith? 31So do not worry, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’ 32For the pagans run after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them. 33But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. 34Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.
Just as you love your child and you want to give them all their needs and even all their wants that you can, so does God love us and want to give us all our needs and even our hearts desires. When you trust, fully trust and when you obey, fully obey, God can and will do everything to work His perfect will in your life IN HIS TIME. Ultimately, that is what you want is it not? His perfect will? We cannot even imagine the blessings He has for us in His perfect timing. SO many times we settle for less than His best because we want it now, RIGHT now. We still have a place to sleep and food to eat. We have no idea where God is leading us or what is in store. Do we want to know? Right now? Of course we do. However, if we can be still, and know that He is God and wait on Him then we, our children and all those watching us, will have grown in Him and in our faith.
If you then, who are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father who is in heaven give good things to those who ask him!